So You Want To Be
Closer To Your Sibling?
Is sibling bonding possible?
I’m sure you have all heard the saying “patience is a virtue”. Patience is needed in all relationships
especially when dealing with siblings.
Just think about it all other relationship we choice, in a way, but we
do not get to chose our siblings (or parents for that matter but that’s another
Normally we are raised in the same household with our sisters
and brothers; this gives them an unfair advantage.
Our siblings have first hand knowledge into
what makes us tick and for the most part they push that button at the wrong
For example, just think about the
last time your younger sibling borrowed something and didn’t pay you back. Or
broke something of your parents and blamed it on you. Or assuming that you will keep their kids at
the last minute. I’m sure you can think
of more examples.
But if you think about it you have contributed to the way
your sister and brother treats you in some way.
Have you come to their rescue one to many times? Not allowing them to feel the harsh realties
Or perhaps you allowed yourself to be their personal ATM, as
opposed to making them work and save their own money.
Maybe you just listened to their sob stories
without correcting them even though you know the truth. It seems easier to just give in or let them
rattle on but in the end you are sinking causing a greater rift between the two
Developing a healthy sibling relationship requires the same
amount of effort and energy as an intimate relationship. You must have great communication skills, a
bit of forgiveness and something in common.
Try these techniques to improve your sibling bonding efforts: 1.
Find (or develop)
something in common.
What does your
sibling enjoy? Can you try it? 2.
Invite your sibling to
participate in something you enjoy. 3.
Round up all of your
siblings and take a trip to a small town or a big city.
Get out of the hotel and see the town
What about an
all-inclusive cruise? 4.
If you are a woman call
your brother and ask his opinion about a guy you’re dating.
Nothing bond siblings faster than
From Sibling Bonding
to Family Reunion