Long Distance Relationships
Get The Closeness You Desire From Your Long Distance Relationship
Many people, especially those who have never experienced one, feel that
long distance relationships are a disaster waiting to happen.
This is not always the case.
Like geographically close relationships, long distant love
have unique challenges and opportunities for growth. All
relationships require a commitment and dedication from both
parties.
If only one person is working on the success of the relationship then
the relationship will not last.
But, contrary to popular belief people in geographically close
relationships do
not
have a better chances of success.
Both types of relationships require the partners to devote time and
energy to connecting on an intimate level.
A
common complaint from women is that men are not open with their feeling
and don’t share their every day trails and tribulations. In
long distance relationships this is of less concern.
Unlike geographically close relationships where couples spend their
time together going to movies, parties and bed, couples in distant
relationships tend to cherish the scheduled conversation and
the spontaneous surprises more.
During the period of separation couples are less likely to discuss
critical issues because they want to cherish the time they have
together. Remember that all relationships have issues and it
is important to set aside time to work on problems as a
couple.
Not only do people in distant love affairs display the best
attributes of their personality for a longer time; they also tend to
put their mate on pedestal more then geographically close
partners.
Although it’s good to admire your partner it is not healthy to
disillusion yourself with thoughts of perfection when thinking about
your mate. This set your relationship up for
disaster. When you reunite permanently the perfect person
that you created in your head will certainly disappoint
you.
Couples
with distance between them are normally more concerned with their
partner cheating. Research shows that people in
long distance relationships do not cheat any more than anyone
else.
People cheat due to problems in the relationship or because cheating is
a part of their personality and upbringing.
Couples in long distance relationships are
no more
likely than anyone else to cheat on one another.
Life
Coaching Moment
In order to
maintain (or establish) a fun, committed relationship through the miles
of separation make sure you DO
NOT do any of the following:
1.
Don’t detach yourself from the company of others. Hang out
with friends, go to social events.
2. Don’t
be afraid to be seen alone in public. Go to a movie, go out
to dinner or just go for a walk. The worse thing to do is
seat in the house alone.
3.
Don’t become obsessed with your situations. If you constantly
think about being lonely or are envious of other couples you will begin
to feel depressed. Find something to occupy your time while
you wait for your Boo. Take on a challenging project at work,
start a hobby, become a volunteer, go back to school, learn a foreign
language… the list goes on and on.
4.
Don’t expect every visitation to be filled with romantic
bliss. All relationships have their own unique set of
problems expect them, talk about them, and cherish them as an
opportunity for growth.
5.
Don’t be pessimistic about the relationship. Don’t allow
others to fill your head with negative thoughts about your long
distance relationship. Remember research shows that people in
long distance relationships do NOT have more affairs than other
couples.
6.
Don’t save intimacy for only when you are together.
Regardless of your budget modern technology has something that will
help you maintain a lasting bond with your mate.
Here are some cool way to use technology to enhance your long distance
relationship:
a.
Digital recording key chains
b.
Talking picture frames
c.
Talk about every day events. Most cell phone companies allow unlimited
in-network calls
d.
Hide small gifts throughout the house on your next visit or leave the
gifts with a friend. Call your mate and tell them where to go
look for their special treat.
e. Hand
write a letter and mail it via standard mail this is a long forgotten
but much cherished token of love. Most people keep this
letter for as long as the relationship is together and sometime after
that. For an extra special touch add your favorite cologne or
perfume.
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