Taking Teen Relationships Seriously
Even though some adults consider teen relationships only
child-play and something that the teen will soon get over, these
relationships should be taken more seriously.
It is during our adolescent years that we begin to form the foundations
for all future relationships.
choices during adolescents are an important part of the developmental
process. During these formative years teens choice of mates
friends shape their thinking and future interactions.
With the increase in violence in the world today, it’s no surprise that
not all teen relationships are fun and happy
increased number of adolescent relationships are problematic and even
Take for example one teen couple I worked with, Tammy and Walter (name
changed to protect the innocent).
giving a presentation at an urban high school on effective
communication techniques, a 14-year old freshman came to the podium to
talk to me about her relationship with her 16-year old boyfriend,
Walter was a junior at the time. Tammy
visited my temporary office in school the following week. She
explained that Walter was normally a “nice guy” but when they had a
disagreement he would yell and scream at her. The screaming
get so out of control that they would go for days without
Tammy really cares for Walter and wanted to know how she can talk with
Walter without getting him “so mad”.
working with adolescents I always address their concerns in the same
respectful and understanding manner as I would an adult
Teens normally get advice from their
uninformed friends since they fear going to their parents.
Knowing that ages 14 and 16 are formative years for both Tammy and
Walter I felt that it was important that I worked with them for one
hour a week over the next eight weeks.
The fact that I was able to pull them out of class helped my attendance
our time together Tammy and Walter were able to practice alternative
ways of communicating using various techniques that I taught
A follow-up survey showed that Tammy and Walter
made great progress in their ability to communicate with one another
through their dedication and hard work during their relationship
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